The Mental Games of Dating Volume 2

• Head Tilting: Many women tilt their heads to one side or the other when trying to appear endearing or flirtatious. It is often an action that is responded to positively and in a tender way as the action is often seen as a youthful one. Though there are many women who are well aware what kind of effect this action has on another person, it is often an action that is produced unintentionally. The common response to this action is to soften in tone of voice and feeling toward the person; in general feelings that are of an affectionate nature maybe stirred. Under the right circumstances there is no harm in being presented with this action; however a person should be aware that it may be used as a manipulative tool in certain situations. If, for example, a woman is trying to persuade another person into doing something that they are hesitant to do, the head tilt might be presented as coercion tactic. Depending upon the situation this action might also be used in attempt to calm another person; while this might be useful under the right circumstances it can also be a form of manipulation when a woman is trying to avoid taking responsibility for some negative prior action.

• Display: Standing; sitting or lying down the human body can look very different depending upon how the limbs are arranged and which parts are flush against other objects. Because when on the dating scene most women hope to present themselves in the most attractive manor possible, this physical action is quite common, though perhaps often unintentional. The important point to notice with this kind of action is that if you suspect that a woman is try to arrange her body in an appealing way, she is most likely attraction to someone within her line of sight. If you and the woman have made eye contact and continue to do so while this action takes place, it may very well be that this action is directed at you. While it is never safe to assume the secondary intention of such an action, the first is almost certainly this: the woman wants you to feel attracted to her. While there may be motives behind her desire to attract you the most common reason is that she finds you attractive; though not certain it is an excellent signal to have witnessed if you are looking for signs that an approach might be welcome.

• Hair Fiddling: More and more people have become aware over the years that when a woman fiddles; adjusts or tosses her hair it often means a great deal more than that she is simply trying to get it out of the way. Womens hair styles and colors have for centuries been a large factor in attracting a person to her and for that reason many women tend to fiddle wit their hair when they hope to attract attention. An important thing to take note of is that this action may also be a sign of nervousness and a person cannot assume that it means anything more than that she is self conscious of appearing attractive, or at least presentable. Despite the fact that this action can have different meanings which so often the woman may not even be completely aware of one thing is almost certain: if the woman is concerned about her physical appearance there is a good chance that there is someone in her proximity that she hopes to impress, if that person is you, this maybe a signal that she would like to be approached. Even a nervous toss of the hair can mean that a woman is eager to make certain that her appearance is attractive, which often means she has spotted someone who she finds interesting.

• Flashing Skin: Often women enjoy dressing up when heading out onto the dating scene and in many cases this may include a low cut top or blouse; leaning forward to expose more skin or allowing fabric to shift in such a way that it becomes more revealing is often read as a signal. The common goal of this is simply to get the attention of a particular person nearby that the woman may be interested in; however, in some cases this action is not directed at any one person and is simply done out of a necessity to get attention. While this action may prove to be a harmless flirtation there are certain cases where the flash is used simply as a tool of amusement and the intended reaction is merely to shock others and has no invitation attached to it. Because this act can indicate such a wide variety of feelings it is difficult to determine whether or not this means that a woman is actually attracted to anyone around, let alone you in particular. The habit of using this tactic also often indicates a strong possibility of neediness because it has the potential to grab more than one persons attention and it should be noted that because of the wide net it casts, the lady in question may not be so particular about whos attention she gets, so long as someone is directing it at her. By direct contrast, the subtle flashing of skin, especially when eye contact is made, can mean that woman is very much interested in pursuing a physical relationship. Though it can be difficult to determine the exact intentions of these actions a good rule to follow is simply: flashing the room-wild and not necessarily interested in you (or anyone); flashing you and making eye contact-more than likely interested in getting to know you better.

• Clothing: Women spend a great deal of time making sure that they choose the right cloths and accessories to wear when dating; many of those choices reflect a great deal more than they might be aware of, but certainly much of the reaction they hoped to achieve from those who see them is planned. A tricky action to follow is determining what a womans cloths say about what she is feeling because there are so many styles and mind sets behind them. While a short skit does not ever necessarily mean that a woman is on the prowl for physical action, nor does a longer one guarantee that a woman isnt interested some basic choices and actions in those choices can be commonly read. Color, for example is an excellent indication of mood, or at the very least the mood the woman was in when she dressed. Bright and vibrant colors can often be expected to be worn by woman who are feeling happy, assertive and want to be noticed. White is often a clean, perhaps tranquil and even a little reserved color; this is often true of many of the lighter beige colors as well. Muted and baggy clothes tend to be worn by women who are feeling a little down or insecure and do not wish to draw to much attention. Dark colors and black (or dark gray,) often are worn when a woman is feeling particularly sexy. Though not a sure fire way to tell whether or not a woman is interested in your approach, colors can be an excellent way to sweep a room and make a guess at what message a woman is trying to send out.