Preparing for Your First Date: Tips for Women
Posted: Saturday, December 27, 2008
by Douglas Sardelli
http://www.villagematchmaker.com
Getting ready to go on a date can be quite an event all in itself, especially for women. Between making sure that you pick out the right cloths; shaving/plucking/waxing and doing your hair and makeup the entire process can seem to take as long as the date. One would think that for the women that go through all of this, it would be enough, but many more preparations are made when trying to plan the perfect first date.
Appearance:
Though we have already brushed over the details of what many women do to prepare for a date, it may be of use to break down some of the processes involved: When preparing for a date many women begin with bathing; this process can be a wonderful, calming experience that can help to create a sensual mood if not hurried. Making good use of items like bath oils; bath bubbles; candles and a soothing choice in music can help cleanse the mind as well as the body. For many women getting dressed each day is a hurried chore because they lead such busy lives; when preparing for a date make sure to give yourself plenty of time to enjoy the process rather than turning it into a chore.
- Hair style is a big deal for many women and nothing ruins a date like a bad hair day. Again, allowing for plenty of time to do your hair so that you feel attractive can have an enormous impact on your mood. If you can find out ahead of time if your date particularly likes your hair a certain way you may style it as such to impress them.
- Makeup isnt a an addition that all women care to make use of; for those that do, make sure not to go too heavy on the application it commonly a turn off to wear too much. For those women who dont usually wear makeup, but would like to look extra special, a light application can give you a glamorous look on your special evening.
- Clothing style says a great deal about what kind of woman you are and how you feel about your date. Dress in a slinky dress and your date may assume that you intend to spend the night; suit up in a long sleeved, loose-fitting turtle neck with lounge pants and they may assume that you have no interest at all in being physical at all. Choosing which outfit best send the message you hope your date will interpret may take time and because of this you might want to pick your outfit long before the actual date. Always make sure to try your outfit on to confirm that it looks as good on as it may on the hanger. Cloths that are especially feminine can help to create the right romantic mood, but also make sure that you feel comfortable in what youre wearing as you have to deal with a few stressful moments during the night and you do not want a too tight blouse increasing your stress level.
Grace and elegance are attributes that many women strive for, even if they trip in their heels from time to time. Be sure that your clothing choices do not force you to walk, sit or move awkwardly or you may spend the night waiting to go home.
Conversation:
Before heading out you may want to brush up on a few current events so that if the conversation should become stale you have something to talk about. Remember that a good conversation allows both people to share and hopefully find that they have a great deal in common. A few tips to keep in mind during your conversation that may be of help:
- Dont talk so much that your date cant get a word in, balance is the key
- Dont talk so little that your date feels that they learned nothing about you
- If youre a funny person dont be afraid to be humorous, you may not share the same kind of humor and it can be important later
- Be respectful and allows show your date that you have excellent manors
- If you are feeling comfortable dont be afraid to open up about your life, if your dates likes you they will want to know everything
- Intimates: When choosing your clothing it may have already crossed your mind that your date could be glimpsing your intimates if the evening goes well and even for those women who are completely sure that it will not get to that level on the first date, it can help to create a more romantic mood if you know you have sex lingerie underneath your clothing. Regardless of your usual behavior, you never know when lightning may strike, in any case be prepared by no wearing something that youd be embarrassed to be seen in by your date.
- Touch: Even the slightest touch can send many different messages, always be careful that you are sending the right ones. For many women a little wine may allow them to feel at ease and may cause them to touch their dates more frequently than would otherwise; if you find yourself doing this on a date it may send out the wrong kind of signal; always be mindful of the proximity between you and your date and that it remains what you would feel comfortable with whether sober or a little worse for the wear.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)From a man's point of view you did a good job. I don't agree with a couple of points, but your article turned out to be away better than I thought it would. I figured I would end up mad after reading this, because from what I have been around, men's points of view on women ideas and how that men think we think, and how men think we should act or whatever really ticks me off. But your article didn't upset me at all, it was nice to read, and \you have very good advice for ladies out their getting ready for a first date with whom ever. Either you are a very good listener when women speak to you about things that upset them, or your a physcologist, or this is what you like to see in your date.........your artice is really good. My only advice to women or men on their first date...Just be yourself...Thank you for the input!
I would first like to say that this article is not written from a man's point of view as I am not a man. I understand the confusion, this account was set up under my husband's name so it certainly appears that I am. Perhaps this is why I did not upset you? I completely agree with being yourself; however if that self needs improvement and the person is not willing to take the time to do a little work on them self this will often result in many failed dates. So in short: make sure that you are pleased with the self that you are presenting, because if you are not willing to put effort into yourself you're not really ready for a relationship.
Please feel free to email those points with which you disagreed, I welcome the info. You can contact me by following the links to our site and thanks again for the input.
-KattHi Katt...not Doug...funny, sorry I should have known by the way your article was written it was a lady writting it. All thru it , I was thinking a man wrote it, I was waiting for something like .....a man thing.....I guess I could call it. Then I was going to get ticked....See I worked for 19 years with a mill full of men and there were only approx 5 women in the working area where I was, and they were not on my shifts. So you can probably now understand why I am so quick to jump down a mans opionion of the way a woman should. I think working there did more harm than good for my opinions on men. Mind you I am married to one, but I tend to jump down his throat for things he says to me that wouldn't have bothered me before. He worked there to by the way.Now that I have re-read it and have in mind that a woman wrote it, the parts that got me a little frazzled, didn't frazzle anymore. It was quite perfect actually. But just to let you know, it was the part on INTIMATES...but it makes sense now. I don't favor men telling women to wear something sexy or appealing for undies...........but since your a woman it's ok...........LOL Sorry, so sorry...........but if Douglas had written it, he did do a good job LOL Have a Great Holiday and New Years
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